No one is positive all the time, but there are times when we think we are positive, but we’re really not. These are the times when we may be sabotaging our own success. It is so much easier to take control of the results you are getting when you take control of your daily actions. There are 2 major actions you must be aware of if you want to insure consistent goal achievement. Although you may be engaging in these acts, while thinking they are harmless or not giving attention to them at all. If you are not where you want to be consider paying attention to them and eliminating or minimizing these actions as much as possible. Speaking against yourself whether it is on purpose or inadvertently, will not bring you the results you are looking for when it comes to achievement:
1. Complaining – When things aren’t going right, it is easy to complain about them to others. However, complaining is a low energy, yet exhaustive type of action. Meaning the energy you expend complaining may bring you some results, but in the long run what you get in exchange for the complaining will leave you still wanting and emotionally and physically drained. Instead, take a moment to breath, think, outline what your options are and then decide to take more productive actions. Not only will you feel better, you will have a confidence boost beyond your greatest expectations.
2. Self-deprecation – Putting yourself down may sound cute or even be funny, but it is an unattractive quality to constantly put on display. There are some who believe that putting themselves down is the way to build relationships and be liked more by others. It may work, but not with the people you may be wanting to connect with or not with those who could help you reach some of your goals. Some comedians have made lots of money putting themselves down, but if you take a closer look at their personal lives you may not like what you see. What’s the point? The point is if you put yourself down long enough, even in jest, you will start to convince yourself that this is who you are and eventually your words will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Calling yourself: “dumb”, “stupid”, “lame”, etc. is not who you really are, but if you want to start to behave that way, then continuing to put yourself down will make it happen. Self-deprecation weakens your ability to function on your higher level. If you are guilty of this behavior, it can be modified by doing the reverse. Start speaking good things about yourself. For example, when you get up in the morning, greet yourself by saying something positive and uplifting. Instead of calling yourself stupid, consider saying something like, “Good morning gorgeous genius”. As long as it is positive, say and do it consistently.